Hey everybody, it’s been some time since I blogged extra of a private replace on issues however at 31 and a bit weeks pregnant I actually wished to share a bit extra about this being pregnant, the way it’s been totally different to my first and our beginning plans!
I blogged so much once I was pregnant with Finley (in addition to his beginning story and first few months) – you can find those posts here if you’re interested, you may wish to scroll again a bit to search out the older ones the place I’m pregnant.
22 weeks pregnant
Getting pregnant the second time after hypothalamic amenorrhea
Simply to rapidly recap, I bought pregnant with Finley after battling hypothalamic amenorrhea for two years. I used to be on Clomid to assist me ovulate (regardless of having gained again various weight) once I lastly bought pregnant.
I’m completely satisfied to say that getting pregnant this time was a complete lot simpler. I’m so much heavier that I used to be, far more free with meals and exercising so much lower than I did within the time earlier than I had Fin (that’s what having a toddler can do!) so my intervals returned 11 months after having Fin, and have become very common regardless of breast feeding him till he was 2 and a half. This time we conceived in three months of correctly making an attempt.
Once I say ‘correctly making an attempt’ I imply it! I used to be utilizing ovulation sticks and monitoring my basal physique temperature. At aged 36 (now 37) I used to be a little bit bit frightened about being ‘older’ affecting our possibilities of conceiving and I’m additionally very impatient! In reality among the finest books I learn was The Impatient Woman’s Guide to Getting Pregnant (affiliate hyperlink) – it’s wonderful for those who’re a little bit older and maybe have some concepts about time scales and whenever you’d like issues to occur.
Why we selected a 5 12 months + age hole
We went with a much bigger age hole between our youngsters for plenty of causes. Firstly, after the considerably traumatic circumstances we confronted after Fin was born (he needed open heart surgery for a hole in the heart and was born 5 weeks early) I truthfully simply wanted numerous time to come back to come back to phrases with that and take care of it emotionally. Finley was additionally by no means one of the best sleeper, and for a very long time I felt drained and drained. I felt like I wanted a least just a few years to recover from that, after which have a while the place issues felt ‘regular’
We additionally weren’t 100% positive if we wished to have one other little one. This was extra James than me, nevertheless it meant that we actually weren’t going to hurry it. As soon as Fin was coming spherical to highschool age we had extra critical conversations about what we wished and each agreed one other little one could be fantastic.
One other facet was the monetary issues. Finley was deferred as a summer season born little one in order that was an additional 12 months in childcare with these related prices. I additionally preferred the concept of having the ability to actually get pleasure from Finley on his personal, then have him begin college and have our second and be capable of have extra devoted time with them whereas he was in school.
Mainly for plenty of totally different causes this age hole was proper for us and I’m actually completely satisfied it’s all labored out this fashion, Finley is so excited to satisfy his little sister!
This being pregnant up to now
Being 5 years older and significantly heavier than I used to be again then, I used to be actually frightened I’d battle on this being pregnant. I’m completely satisfied to say the other is true! Aside from some delicate nausea within the first trimester and a few tiredness and achiness now I’m additional on, this being pregnant has been actually fulfilling. In reality I really feel like I’ve been much less achy than I did the final time!
The largest distinction I’ve felt this time is in my psychological well being. I used to be very anxious final time about all the pieces. This time, possibly as a result of I’m extra accustomed to how being pregnant feels in my physique, I’ve felt far more emotionally steady. We’ve additionally had further scans to verify this child doesn’t have any coronary heart issues and that has actually helped too and has been very reassuring.
I additionally appear to have a a lot greater bump this time spherical too! I do know that’s typically regular in second and subsequent pregnancies, final time I felt a bit paranoid that I used to be too huge, and being even greater now I shocking really like it! I like that I look very visibly pregnant and have an enormous bump to hug!
With Finley being born at 35 weeks, we do have a slight enhance within the possibilities of one other preterm beginning, however as a result of that’s probably on the playing cards I believe we’ve been higher in a position to put together for various prospects and outcomes.
30 weeks pregnant
If we do make it to full time period, I’m in discussions with the midwife in regards to the choice of getting a house beginning. After the final time, I’d be very happy to not must be in hospital in any respect! I’m lifelike in fact, and know that so much can change between now and when the child arrives, however I might like to at the least have the choice of a house beginning on the desk. Then once I go into labour if one thing feels off I can nonetheless head into hospital.
Earlier than I had Finley we did a hypnobirthing course, and this time I’ve completed the Positive Birth Company’s Digital Pack which I might 100% suggest, it’s been completely sensible and was what tipped me over into deciding to request a house beginning. I’m additionally doing their PostPartum Pack now which is equally sensible and a fantastic refresher after such a protracted hole from final time!
We bought on and let go of numerous the child gear we had with Fin so this time we’ve needed to discover numerous new stuff. I made a decision to put money into my dream pushchair, a Bugaboo Bee 5 which I like. I additionally purchased a second hand Snuz Pod bedside crib. Most of all the pieces else has been loaned from a few of my wonderful mates – automotive seats, moses baskets, masses and a great deal of ladies garments and extra. We’ve saved a few of Fins garments to reuse and all the slings I purchased for him
General, this looks like a really totally different expertise from final time. I don’t know what to anticipate from the ultimate weeks, the beginning or the postpartum stage, however no matter occurs I really feel like I’m a lot better ready to have the ability to glide.
When you have a second or subsequent beginning, how did your pregnancies really feel totally different? Did you are feeling calmer, much less anxious, roughly ready?