I used to be watching the stay recording of Will Smith as he ready to bungee leap out of a helicopter over the Grand Canyon. I saved saying out loud, “I’m nervous. Oh. My. God. Don’t do that! I don’t wanna watch! Wait, sure I do! He’ll be nice. Aah!” As time drew nearer to him getting on the helicopter, he admitted he was feeling shaky. You may see a change in his posture and facial expressions. No extra joking and laughing. The concern had hit him. He had so many alternatives to say “I don’t need to do that.” I discovered myself tearing up all through as a result of I utterly understood all the feelings he confirmed. At 50 years outdated, right here is Will Smith in all of his dopeness, displaying individuals how he faces his fears head-on. What if all of us began doing this on a constant foundation with all the things that comes our method? I’m certain this growing old course of could be extra satisfying and we’d have much less regrets.
So many issues had been stated all through the recording that spoke to me however had been purposed to instruct Will on tips on how to leap. How typically do you leap? Which means, how typically do you end up in a scenario that brings concern, however as an alternative of letting it take management, you assault it like a lion…raaawr?! At age 29, I flew on an airplane on my own for the primary time. It was an enormous deal as a result of I don’t like flying and the truth that I went to a busy airport and boarded a flight alone was a conquered concern. Afterward, I keep in mind saying to myself ‘hmm..that wasn’t so dangerous.” Comparable phrases had been stated by Will as he dangled within the air whereas ready to be lowered. He stated ‘full terror become pure bliss.” At age 30 I began a weblog (those that have been maintaining with all of this know that) and it was the scariest factor for me to do. I saved speaking myself out of it. Stored making excuses on why I shouldn’t begin a weblog. Nonetheless, I spotted I had talked and daydreamed about this concept for too lengthy. The concern was attempting to regulate me. To not act on it, would greater than possible convey extra ache. Remorse.
Will’s goal of conquering his concern was to indicate it who was in management. Nonetheless, the purpose I need to make with you all in the present day is the issues we permit to cease us in our place and never act on, can later flip into ‘shoulda, coulda, woulda’s.’ Remorse is an enormous deal in growing old. Erik Erikson’s, Integrity vs. Despair stage, talks about wanting again on life and feeling happy or being crammed with regrets. Every time I hear somebody say ‘I’m too outdated to be out right here studying tips on how to…blah blah…or doing..blah,” I get just a little irked. I truthfully really feel like age is a contributing issue to why so many individuals don’t do what they need. Afraid of wanting like a idiot or failing. I’ve by no means seen an inventory of guidelines like this:
1. If you’re over the age of 30 you may now not make errors.
2. If you’re over the age of the 40 you may now not change your thoughts about what you need out of life.
three. If you’re over the age of 50 you may now not take dangers.
four. If you’re over the age of 60 you may now not study one thing new.
5. If you’re 70 or older, simply cease it. Die.
I’m certain you’ve by no means seen guidelines like these both as a result of they DON’T EXIST. Society makes up these guidelines with myths that for some cause we have now deemed them to be legislation. Conquering a concern has no age restrict. It’s not simply particular to youthful people who’re residing their ‘finest life’ of their 20’s. It’s not a straightforward job both, so don’t get the impression that I’m saying conquering concern is a no brainer. Concern is undoubtedly a thoughts over matter kind of factor, nevertheless it makes us higher once we stand as much as it. It’s like cloud 9. It’s legit that pure bliss Will was speaking about. Age is a barrier that we place earlier than us to persuade ourselves it’s not that we’re afraid however simply too outdated. Let’s change how we expect. If we’re bodily, mentally and emotionally capable of do what it’s we need to do, that’s all that issues. Clichè line coming in 5,four,three..as a result of guys, age ain’t nothin’ however a numba.
What amazes me is concern, for some cause disappears once we are advised we have now a number of months to stay. Have you ever ever observed that? I used to be watching “The Bucket Listing” a number of weeks in the past. Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson had each grew to become in poor health and got a sure period of time to stay. In order that they exit on this journey to verify issues off of their bucket record and nothing stopped them, not even concern. I imply why would concern cease them? They had been dying. However, when you consider it, we’re all going to die. I imply, duh. We could not have the precise timeframe that some individuals are given, however figuring out that any day may very well be THE day ought to trigger us to crank up and go on this journey of doing what it’s we need to do…large or small.
Leap Far and Hold Wanting Up
One of many directions Will was given earlier than getting on the helicopter was “if you happen to don’t keep in mind anything, simply keep in mind to leap far and maintain wanting up.” I share that with you in the present day, in hopes that all the issues inhibiting you from really having fun with life will now not be the case. Leap far and lookup, remembering there isn’t a restrict. As I typed all of this to you all, it was actually for me, however I prefer to share. Concern is a bunch of specific phrases that I don’t want to embody on this publish. It’s one thing I plan to now not let management my life. From right here on out I’m leaping…who’s with me?
Discover the hyperlink to Will Smith’s leap here.
“Simply commit and don’t take into consideration anything.” -Willard Carroll Smith Jr.
“What would you do, you knew you couldn’t fail? I’ve no concern in something, I do all the things effectively.” -Jay Z